Old friendships that just fade
A very close friend of mine is a fellow writer. She and I had been through a lot together, and we remained strong friends during lots of trying times. She made a bit of success in her writing career, and then she kind of disappeared off the face of the Earth.
Well, I found her a couple of years ago on a livejournal site, and I tried to get back in touch with her, leaving her messages and commenting on her journal. Nothing. After about two years of this, I've finally decided to give up on her. I didn't really want to, but after a certain time you end up having to cut your losses and just move on.
I've been kind of dealing with that sort of thing in a lot of different avenues in my life. A number of people who used to be close just aren't even that interested in maintaining communication. I attempted to continue the conversations, but I found it to be a very one-way situation, unless they actually wanted something from me. A friend I've known for my entire time in Michigan tends to ignore contacts from me unless something comes up and he needs my assistance. I've decided to cut him off.
There are a couple of other grad students I have known from Western that I'm starting to close off as well. These are the people who "promise" to keep in touch. At least three of them travel to or live in Grand Rapids, and we promised to keep in touch and get together. Nothing. Nothing at all from them. No returns of messages, emails or smoke signals. One of them I ran into while teaching (she had promised to keep in touch before I moved, but didn't communicate until we were both teaching at the same place). After I quit teaching, she told me she'd definitely keep in touch. Nothing.
So, I've decided not to care anymore. If people are going to cut me off, then I'm going to cut them off as well. I'm really tired of trying to maintain relationships with people who don't return the sentiment, until we run into each other by accident.
There are a few people I still maintain contact with from WMU, and I'm glad to still be friends with them. Everyone else can kiss my sorry butt, as they say in France. By the way, if you happen to be reading this post, you can kind of count on the fact that you're not one of the people that comment was directed at.
Stumble It!
Well, I found her a couple of years ago on a livejournal site, and I tried to get back in touch with her, leaving her messages and commenting on her journal. Nothing. After about two years of this, I've finally decided to give up on her. I didn't really want to, but after a certain time you end up having to cut your losses and just move on.
I've been kind of dealing with that sort of thing in a lot of different avenues in my life. A number of people who used to be close just aren't even that interested in maintaining communication. I attempted to continue the conversations, but I found it to be a very one-way situation, unless they actually wanted something from me. A friend I've known for my entire time in Michigan tends to ignore contacts from me unless something comes up and he needs my assistance. I've decided to cut him off.
There are a couple of other grad students I have known from Western that I'm starting to close off as well. These are the people who "promise" to keep in touch. At least three of them travel to or live in Grand Rapids, and we promised to keep in touch and get together. Nothing. Nothing at all from them. No returns of messages, emails or smoke signals. One of them I ran into while teaching (she had promised to keep in touch before I moved, but didn't communicate until we were both teaching at the same place). After I quit teaching, she told me she'd definitely keep in touch. Nothing.
So, I've decided not to care anymore. If people are going to cut me off, then I'm going to cut them off as well. I'm really tired of trying to maintain relationships with people who don't return the sentiment, until we run into each other by accident.
There are a few people I still maintain contact with from WMU, and I'm glad to still be friends with them. Everyone else can kiss my sorry butt, as they say in France. By the way, if you happen to be reading this post, you can kind of count on the fact that you're not one of the people that comment was directed at.
Stumble It!
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